Two situations I've dealt with in the past year, repeatedly:
1. Music I love to play, but no personal connection. Basically, assholes who have weird little Napolean complexes run these projects. Usually they are older with no musical success, but attempt to exert control over things in such a manner that you would think they had a room full of platinum records and a proven track record of top 40 hits. Two very promising things imploded because of this bullshit last year, and I am sick of it.
2. This one is worse though. In these situations I enjoy hanging out with the people involved but am unmoved by the music. It sucks because I have a lot of fun at first, but see no future and am less likely to put in the work needed because I am indifferent to the music. So I bail, and basically lose out on some friendships because of it.
The only thing that is going to make me happy is to start my own band. But then, won't I just be one of the little Napoleans I hate so much? Maybe it would work better if I make it clear what my expectations are up front. No one does that, and it always leads to problems. Seems simple enough.
I am disappointed today because one of those guys (#1) who is obsessive compulsive to a ridiculous degree "recorded over" an incredible day's work from the last time we played together. If that's true, then he's a bigger jackass than I imagined, but no doubt he has it and just doesn't want me to have it. Either way: some of the best playing I have done on tape is lost to me. It just saddens me.